Relationship Friction Among Girls: What Parents Can Do

I’m sitting there facilitating a Girl Power group of fifth and sixth graders, and listening to the girls talk about the problems they have with friends. Mary*, a sweet 11-year-old, says that when she started in school, the other girls ignored her because she was German. She describes how they wouldn’t talk to her, and…

The Shadow Side of the Expat Experience

This column does not shy away from the shadow side of the expat experience, as you know! Nevertheless there is a difference between politely hinting at negative, experienced realities and getting a huge Maglite torch and shining a light into the shadows. Let us get a giant pack of batteries and begin. It starts with…

Of Ghosts and Unicorns and Quite a Few Metaphors

“I’m going to dress up as a unicorn this Halloween!” my youngest child tells me, glitter-eyed. I don’t think this is really in the spirit of Samhain, the ancient Celtic festival of the liminal, when ghosts and spirits walk among us. But it’s not as bad as the year she wanted to go as Twilight…

Personality and Relationships

Suppose it is so that people differ in temperament and that therefore their behavior is just as inborn as their body build. Then we do violence to others when we assume such differences to be flaws and afflictions.  David Keirsey In my early 20s, I was a waitress for a while. One of my co-workers…

Notes for New Fathers

Hello, soon-to-be dads as well as you guys who are just thinking about it. This piece is for you. I think it’s nice to share tips and stories with each other. So here we go with a few of the big things I have learned as I approach ten years of being a dad. The…

Feel the Flow

During a recent trip to London, I had the pleasure of talking with a lovely shop owner who suddenly began to discuss her love and admiration for the game of golf. This caught me off guard, because I had never envisioned a fashion-minded owner of a high-end boutique to be remotely interested in a game…

Running the Baby Marathon

There weren’t too many days over the past 10 years when I didn’t consider a future without a baby. It was a fearful thought. The news of the arrival of a friend’s new baby was always accompanied by conflicting feelings of happiness and a guilty self-pitying ache. We spent years trying for a baby before…

Hearty Baked Pumpkin Soup

When I was a little girl, my father decided he wanted to try out this recipe because it had been recommended to him by a colleague. I had always known that my father had a soft spot for any food with a ton of butter and/or cream in it, so it came as no surprise…